Relationship Pitfalls

Tuesday, May 4th, 2010 at 5:19 pm

There are some things in a relationship that almost always end any relationship
very quickly. In rare circumstances, a relationship may be able to survive these
hardships, but more often than not, they will end. If you know what to look for
and what to avoid in your relationship, you can avoid these things that will
destroy everything that you have worked to build with your partner.

One of the biggest reasons for a relationship ending is dishonesty and trust
issues. It is essential to be able to trust your partner in a relationship. If
you are not able to have complete trust and honesty, it leads to a relationship
where you are questioning every little thing that happens. You begin to find
reasons to fight with your partner. You look for little subtle signs of a
problem and you blow this way out of proportion. Granted, none of this would
happen if your partner was just being open and honest with you. However, you are
taking this to a whole new level and compounding the problem.

Another huge problem within relationships is infidelity and cheating. It does not
matter if you are just dating or if you are married to someone. The impact of an
unfaithful partner is the same in any situation.

This can lead to a lot of questioning and self esteem issues. You begin to wonder
why you cannot make them happy. You wonder why they had to find someone else to be
with you. Then, the anger sets in.

You are hurt and betrayed. You seek revenge. You want to get back at your partner
for being unfaithful to you. In some cases, you blame the person that they cheated
with and not your partner. This is not the right answer at all.

Your partner is the one that is in a relationship with you. Therefore, it was their
decision to be with someone else. The other person may not have even known that
they were in a relationship. Make sure that the right people are getting the blame.
But, most often if someone is unfaithful once, it is going to happen again. For this
reason, many people choose to just end the relationship after finding out about an
episode of being unfaithful.

Another way to ruin a relationship is to avoid your partner. You make excuses and
find reasons to not spend time with your partner. When you are together, you are
doing your own thing and not spending any quality time with them. You may be in
another room. You may be on the computer. You will find anything that you possibly
can to avoid having to spend any time with them. Perhaps you are no longer interested
in them and are just not sure how to tell them. It could also be that you are tired
of the relationship or that you want something new and different in the relationship
and are afraid to ask for it.

Whatever the case may be, it is much easier and less harmful to just end a relationship
than to go on pretending that everything is fine. In the end, the effects are a lot more
devastating if there are major issues thrown into the mix. If you no longer want to be
with someone, the best way to address this with the least amount of hurt possible is to
be upfront and honest. Losing a love is always painful, but losing a love due to lying,
cheating, or any other major issue is a lot worse than having someone tell you that they
are no longer interested. The emotional toll is much worse.